We are all in this weight loss thing together. Navigating nutrition is hard. Losing weight and keeping it off is hard.
Figuring which approach is going to be right for you, sticking to it consistently over time, standing back up after you fall, not getting frustrated or impatient, and refraining from throwing the scale through the wall. These are all really hard things to do some days.
You’re unique, and you’re plan needs to be unique to you. You need to feel support and that your needs are understood. We all need this in our lives to truly succeed.
The trouble is, sometimes we set unrealistic goals or try and change too many things in our lives are once and this can lead to feeling lost and unmotivated.
The people you used to go for Taco Tuesday with aren’t game for switching this outing to Spin Class Saturday.
The friends you used to drink with on the weekend don’t understand why you are limiting yourself to one or two glasses of wine all of a sudden instead of your typical three or six.
So what are you going to do? You love these people, are you supposed to just not see them anymore? No, of course not. But you do need to find your weight loss tribe.
Finding Your Weight Loss Tribe
Make yourself a priority
Recognize that just because you decided to make changes doesn’t mean that your friends also want to make changes. If you want them to respect your decision, you need to also respect theirs. Do not push your resolutions onto other people – you have enough to worry about in yourself.
That doesn’t mean, however, that you shouldn’t have the conversation with them about what it is you are doing. More important to that is explaining to them WHY you’re doing it. If they are truly good friends they will support you.
Prioritize your needs
Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing and do what you need/want to do. It is not selfish to make yourself a priority and to prioritize the things that you need to do to help bring you towards your goals or the things that make you happy.
If you have already completed step one this becomes a whole lot easier.
Find your tribe
You’re not alone in this journey. There are people who are standing in your shoes, who understand and can relate to your struggles, and who will celebrate your little wins with you. Your tribe will understand how big of a deal it was that you didn’t eat that second slice of cake and also people who will push you to keep going when you did.
These people are your true supporters. You could try and go it alone. A lot of people do. But the journey is a lot better when you have the support of others just like yourself.
I urge you to search until you find a community that makes you feel confident, safe, and like you belong. You may go through a few classes or instructors before you find your fit but when you do I promise it will be worth it.
The L2 Fitness Tribe